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[quote=Anonymous]I have found that often the person asking the question isn't prepared for the answer. Seems like people ask, expecting a certain answer, and when they don't get it they don't know what to say.

One example: Before I had kids, people would ask me "do you have kids?" When I said no, it seemed as though the conversation stopped. The person asking expected me, a 30-something married woman, to say yes and join in a discussion about kids. The asker was often caught off guard by my simple answer of "no we don't." (of course, there are different levels of acquaintanceship...sometimes I'd get "when are you going to have a child?" etc etc). There was often an awkward pause, which I had to scramble to fill. Often I'd just maintain eye contact letting them fumble for what to say next because I really think that if you ask a question you should be prepared for the common answers (like "yes" or "no.").

Now, we have a 2yo son who will probably be an only child. We would like to have another, but don't want to go through the fertility treatments and procedures again so if it doesn't happen naturally that is ok. We are very happy with our one. So I've found that  when people ask if/when we're having another, again they don't know what to say when I say "probably not." Oh well, they can deal with feeling weird about me having just one child. I'm fine with it. [/quote]

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