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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh my God, this was weird. I am German, living in the US. My husband is Asian, came to the US when he was 5. This question has been bothering me quite a bit as well, even though we don't have kids yet. I don't have advice for you, but had to share how much this bothers me as well. [b]Especially knowing that our children probably won't look anything like me and most people will probably think they are adopted when I am alone with them [/b]:([/quote]

I don't know why you'd automatically assume that.  My children are half white/half Asian and they look much more like the white parent than the Asian one.  Everyone comments on how much they favor the white one and people will say to me, "No offense, but they look nothing like you" (no offense taken).  Anyway, who cares if they think your children are adopted?[/quote]

Why I care if someone thinks my children are adopted? I don't. I won't know it, if they just THINK it. But if someone walks up to me and asks if my children are adopted, or even why I adopted Asian kids instead of white ones...yeah, I won't like that. I know mixed raced couples who make that experience every day and it's not a happy confrontation.

Nobody says you have to care. I care. I hope when the time comes my connection to my children will shine through the colors of our skins on very first glance. But for strangers I might look like the nanny or a babysitter or a very close family friend rather than their mother. Sad? Sure. But depending on the way they look people WILL assume they are not my children.[/quote]

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