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Don't post trash if you don't want to be called trash. Yes, someone up thread posted that they wanted the problem to stop. Telling someone who is being abused to control the behavior of another shows a huge lack of education on the subject, so you're the one who is grossly uneducated here. Telling someone who is being abused that they actually are part of the problem is even more ignorant. The problem is the OP's wife physically assaulted him/her. That's the behavior that OP wants to see stop. And you're telling OP to evaluate their behavior is idiotic. Abusive relationships aren't negotiated and mediated. They are about one person abusing the other. But I'm thinking I get why you can't see that....[/quote]

OP's wife didn't just assault hir out of the blue.  And if OP wants that behavior to stop, no amount of saying/screaming "you're abusive" or calling the cops is going to fix it.  [b]Abusive relationships have two sides, and it rarely breaks down in such a fashion that one person is solely an aggressor and one is solely a victim (contrary to your black/white mentality).[/b]  Nobody on the internet is going to be able to suss this out for OP.  OP needs to do some introspective work to figure out why zie wants to stay in an abusive relationship, and what, if anything, can be done to shift the present dynamic.

You lack reading comprehension in a way that would be funny if it wasn't so sad, sweetie.  I never said "control her".  I said "understand yourself, because you're involved."  And if you can't understand that distinction, there's really no point in continuing to engage you.[/quote]

NP here.  Well you got that part wrong.  Your understanding of abuse--"that it rarely breaks down in such a fashion that one person is solely the aggressor and the other person is solely the victim" is patently false.  Then you proceed to contradict yourself by suggesting that the OP should do some soul searching to understand why he would choose "to stay in an abusive relationship" which suggests that his wife is the aggressor.

Dafuq?[/quote]

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