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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The "NO" always wins.

OP, since you are the one who is always bringing this up, you are the problem. stop.

Your one child should not have to grow up in a divorced home because you want what you want.[/quote]
If it's OK for the husband to revoke his commitment to more than one child, it should be OK for the wife to revoke her commitment to marriage.  I am not saying she SHOULD do this.  I am saying it's not impossible, unreasonable or even unexpected to grow to hate the spouse who is forcing you into the image of the family they now decided they want - after promising you something entirely different.  You're saying that the only reasonable way out is for the wife to shut up and get over it, and that's just not true.  True, you can't force someone to have another child.  Equally, you cannot force someone into continued love and respect of someone who betrayed a vision the wife thought they shared. [/quote]

Good lord. You act like there is no one on earth whose perceptions differed from reality. I tis not an active betrayal like sleeping with someone else or having a double life. It's called change.

Many people, myself included, always thought they would have a big family Then they had one kid and the reality was far different. Yes, my husband wanted more than one child. But childbirth and pregnancy and the first year were horrible and I didn't want another one. My husband was understandably upset for awhile, but then he moved on because he valued what he ACTUALLY had more than some dream.

So the options for OP are 1. Browbeat her husband into having a kid he doesn't want and will regret
                                       2. Browbeat her husband into having a kid he MAY not regret
                                        3. Get out of her marriage because she can't get over her resentment
                                        4. Or deal with it and move on.

I know what I would go with. And saying her husband is a manchild at 50 because he doesn't want to start over again as a parent? Wow. It seems like she has her own set of unrealistic perceptions she has to deal with.[/quote]

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