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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure why the poster above had to be so annoying.

OP, my DH is an insulin-dependent diabetic so i have a sense of what you're dealing with.  I wonder if part of this is your DH's underlying anger about his own limitations and the burden of constantly restricting and monitoring food.  Maybe this is a way of rebelling against the diabetes - by refusing to acknowledge it.  I would suggest that, in future conversations, maybe you could focus on how the improved diet will help DD improve in the sport she has chosen.  Accentuate the non-health related positives since he has already shown he isn't very swayed by the health arguments.

Just a thought.  Sorry you're dealing with this.][/quote]

+1 on all of this. His struggle with his food and health issues, as well as maybe wanting a "partner in crime" to eat junk with him, is affecting how he feeds your child and you are absolutely right to be taking as strong a stance as you can. He's being very selfish and irresponsible, and it's terrible for your DD. Great job on talking it through with your daughter - she is surely aware of her weight problem, but few if any kids her age have the willpower to resist that kind of temptation being dangled under their noses all the time. You're doing your daughter a favor while he is actively harming her and undermining both of you. Ignore the lame poster calling you passive-aggressive for hiring a sitter to go grocery shopping. It sounds like you tried everything to make him listen and you had to make your point loud and clear somehow. Your husband should be ashamed of himself, purposefully fattening up your daughter like a Christmas goose. I had a dad who did a very similar thing when I was the exact same age, and it has set me up for a lifetime of easy weight gain, difficulty keeping thin, and general food issues.

Question: are you thin while he is overweight? I've seen this dynamic before when that is the case. Food becomes their bond and you get left out.

Best of luck to you and your daughter. And maybe switch back to the original pediatrician and see if s/he has some advice for you! Maybe also family counseling, even if only you and your daughter go.[/quote]

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