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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men.  Let's be serious here.  If you go online, you will find them.[/quote]

Written by a man...[/quote]

sure, but how is this not the truth??[/quote]

I'm a relatively attractive woman (single mom) in my 30s and I've found it difficult to find anything more than men interested in casual sex.  Yes, finding a man online is easy - finding a man who is interested in an actual relationship, has been challenging.  And as a single mom, finding time to actually go on dates has also been a logistical challenge.  Perhaps if I had time to go on multiple dates each week, it would be easier to find someone...[/quote]

I'm the PP - as a single dad (50/50 co-parent), with a demanding full time job, dating is just as challenging.  I'm using online dating as just one way to meet women and the most difficult part for me has been mustering up the energy to filter through profiles or respond to emails, etc.  I'm pretty discriminating and it takes more than a pretty face or nice body to get me to ask a woman out - but I've found meeting for a drink either on the nights I don't have my DD or the weekends when she is with her mom are the best.  just very low key, no pressure first dates.

if you're a full time single mom then it's much more challenging and difficult for sure.  but here's the thing, at least for me - while I'm in no hurry to jump in bed with someone or rush down the aisle again, I do desire a serious, monogamous relationship and am very open to remarrying.  if more kids are not in the picture, ok - my life is plenty complete with my one incredible child. so if you want to meet a guy, you've got to be open to that as you can't predict where you'll meet him.

and I've met single moms/women at school, at the grocery store (seriously, yes - and whoever said to go mid week is 100% right, it's when single guys/dads shop), dry cleaners, local pizza shop.  most of the time it's just friendly banter (and I'd never flirt with the kids there) but a few times I asked for a number and kept the conversation going. and I've mostly dated single moms -- we understand each other's schedules and constraints on time.  while there hasn't been a forever love connection yet, I've had a couple of decent relationships (in terms of length of time) in the couple of years I've been dating again.  to me, it's worth the effort - yes sex is definitely important but so is the emotional connection and the ability to share your life and interests with someone as I'm really tired of only chauffeuring the kiddo around.[/quote]

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