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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can keep talking all you want. Kids are getting into trouble because they don't feel cared for. Period.[/quote]

I'm the PP who gave HJs and BJs in 8th grade (had an older no-good boyfriend that became my one and only not-healthy relationship).  I was very loved and knew it, had (and have) great "good girl" friends, and believe it or not, have strong morals.

My parents talked to me early and often about the meaning and import of sex, and I got it.  I verbally promised my mom I'd wait until I felt I could be responsible using protection, and for any outcomes should protection fail.  I knew I wasn't mature enough to handle sex, and I didn't have actual intercourse until I was, the summer after my Sophomore year in college, with a guy I'd been dating for over a year.  In my case, I didn't consider HJs and BJs to be sex, and certainly my parents didn't talk to me about them specifically, as it never crossed their minds (they were each other's 1st and it wasn't even part of their worldview).   I told my mom the day after I had sex, and she took immediately to the store to buy different kinds of condoms and foams, and made the appointment that got me on the pill shortly thereafter.  I suspect if they'd (somehow) managed to talk to me about hand/blow jobs, I'd have made different choices.

With my kids (baby boys), I plan to talk to them early and often, hope to instill a great respect for women (what my then boyfriend lacked) and sex, to include all its forms.  If I can convince them to abstain from fooling around until high school, and intercourse until they're in a mutually healthy, loving relationship (whenever that is), I'll consider it a success. 
For all kids, but girls especially, I think instilling confidence and self-worth is key so they can make the best decisions for themselves and not feel the peer pressure to engage in sex activities before they're ready.[/quote]

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