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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Now he is not cheating and you say he's a great dad, so I propose you wait the two years until DD is in college.  In the meantime, get your financial stuff together.

I say this because if you think first class tickets are going to cost a lot, the cost of divorce and two households is going to be sky-high.  And you are so overworked that you have no time to book flights, this of how overworked you'll be doing this divorce and possibly moving etc.  You would be shooting yourself in the foot, OP…calm down and think about it logically.

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This.  I have a few friends going thru divorces and it seems to be expensive and takes time to work out.  Also, I don't know the state of finances but your DH could be entitled to half of your retitirement savings.  Asssuming you don't want to be alone the rest of your life after divorcing, know that the dating for a woman over 40 isn't all that great.  You are likely looking at guys in their mid-fifties and in general many that don't want to settle down.

Honestly, if I knew spouse was that unreliable with money there is no way I would have him plan the vacation.  if you can't go as a family, you don't go.  There is no place you "have to go on vacation".  Only have to gos are visiting sick family members and grandmas's 99th birthday get together. It's very awkward to be on vacation with another family and have to budget so closely.  I would think there would be pressure to keep up. Also, while my husband is no spendthrift, he tends to buy a few things here and there for our daughters.  Nothing crazy that would break the bank, but he enjoys being the fun one.

So anyway, I get you are annoyed about his shrug your shoulder attitude about not knowing how much first class costs.  However, it sounds like he did not go looking for first class, it was either that or they wouldn't be going or have some crazy route that got them there late.  Also, if you were planning to go but couldn't because of work, that extra was not more than it would have been for you to go too.  You had time to inquire and check how much he spent, but not call to make the arrangements in the first place?  It is a pet peeve of mine when someone knows exactly how they want something done but ask you to do it and then criticizes how you did it.[/quote]

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