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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I think the issue here is that every single aspect of it favors your mother and disadvantages DH's parents.

[b]I imagine too that given you don't like them it will also be easy to just limit how much they come over while you are here if they stay at a hotel. You can tell them tomorrow isn't a good day, can you visit the city instead or you'll want them to go out for dinner instead of dropping over and you won't want them there for baby's bedtime or any other time that isn't convenient for you. Yet your mom will be part of everything and you'll welcome her into your home and life. [/b]

I really don't get why your mom is coming for Easter. That seems pretty rude and inconsiderate given she sees you often. To try and also be there when the in-laws fly in and then to be the one staying at the house when in far away grandparents who don't get to see the kids often are stuck at a hotel. No idea why your mom is coming.

If I flew to see family and found that that local family was staying with them and being involved in everything while I was stuck at a hotel and only involved on invitation.  I would realize that I was not wanted or liked and simply wouldn't visit again. If that is what you are hoping they realize your DH really needs to be on board with you trying to push he family away and bring your mom closer. [b]I highly doubt if the situation was reserved and your parents were flying in for a visit, you would put them in a hotel and invite your local inlaws to come and stay with you during that time.[/b][/quote]

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You're jumping to conclusions a bit here. I've never limited their access to our DS. When they fist visited after his birth and stayed at a hotel, we lent them our only car and gave them a key to our place and emphasized that they could come over as often as they liked. I never said that I didn't want them to be involved in our home or our life. In fact, it's usually me, not DH, who's constantly sending them new pictures and emails "from" DS and inviting them to skype with us during dinner and bathtime. If I didn't initiate those things, my DH wouldn't. He doesn't have a strong relationship with them. They are not warm people, and my husband would be the first to admit this.

And I don't have "parents", I just have a mom. I lost my dad two years ago. Our family is pretty religious. Easter is the most important day on the Christian calendar. I have no siblings. I don't want my mom to spend Easter by herself, and neither does my husband.

If the situation were reversed and I still had both my parents and they were flying into town, and if DH's mom lived closer and was single, I would absolutely have DH's mom stay with us and have my parents stay at a hotel. Having twice the number of adults in our apartment is hard; it's a bit easier when you're only squeezing in one extra person. [/quote]

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