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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a spin off from the previous thread about gay or bi teens.  I have 2 DD who are under the age of 10, so this isn't an issue for me.  But it seems to be rather trendy for teen girls to say that their bi.  If one of my daughters ever said she was bi, I would be very supportive of her, but I wouldn't allow her to have sleepovers with girls for the same reasons I wouldn't allow them with boys.  However, the idea of not letting my daughter have sleepovers with her friends seems very sad to me.  Wondering how parents who are in this situation handle it.  [/quote]

Interesting question…just want to point out that there's something else there that's tricky.  And that is the obligation to tell the other parent.  Let's say my DD is lesbian and wants a sleepover. (Ok I agree with you for same reasons as you stated and wouldn't do it) but if I were going to do it, the other parent and kid needs to know this.  But it might still be private info for your kid.

Anyways if my kid was doing a sleepover with anyone who might be interested sexually in my kid, I'd want to know. [/quote]

OK.  No experience here with parenting a bi kid.  I will say as a young teen I went to sleepovers with girls and one of the girls ended up being bi (which was confirmed later).  There was never any pressure for me to do anything and to my knowledge no one ever engaged in bi sexual activity although I will say, knowing what I know now, and looking back on things the "option was openly on the table".   This was a long time ago and things are different now.  Kids seem to push the boundaries more.  My first thought when I saw this post was do the other parent's know but mine didn't.  If I thought there would be sexual interaction then absolutely not but if it was just a bunch of girls and some happened to be bi, ehh..., you know your kid and their friends best.  I do think there is a parental obligation here to set the rules, and a responsibility on your daughter to know and respect boundaries.  I would be really pissed if my straight daughter (or son) went to a sleepover unknowingly and was subjected to bi sexual peer pressure.  [/quote]

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