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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]A long standing issue has been that FIL doesn't like my cooking. He prefers heavy 1950s type food. I make meats, veggies, pot pie etc. MIL always wants to cook so FIL will be happy, but I politely decline, mainly because both my kids and I hate her cooking. Is this all ridiculous or what?! But I think it's my house, you eat my food. When I visit you then I'll eat your food. [/quote]

You sound like an awful person.  You know he doesn't like your cooking but you won't let your MIL make something he likes.  He's supposed to just suck it up.  What a bitch.  [/quote]

You are rather awful yourself, and you are making ignorant and incorrect assumptions.  I absolutely try to make things he might like, but he is set in his ways, naturally prefers MILs cooking. I have to balance basic nutritional needs for my children and they don't eat her cooking much (lots of sauces on veggies, fatty foods). I expect them to eat what they are given from her, but I don't think it's healthy or fair for 9 meals in a row to be something they don't like and pick at.

They are family, which is why I step aside when they show up with a cooler full of food for a two night stay. However, I do resent being pushed out of my own kitchen. I would never arrive at their home and take over the cooking. Although I'd like to.

Basically FIL is very patriarchal, and MIL lives her life putting him before all. He has gotten better since we had kids, but has a hard time staying with us because we're more democratic in our decision making process. He is a kind man, but completely dominates every conversation, never asks us anything about our lives, and rarely even looks at me. He likes his meals and cocktails a certain way, and would plan every activity we do and place we go except now he has to work around naps and baby's needs. To keep the peace I usually just go along with things, but it is tiring to be the smiling, polite DIL all the time. I will never be good enough for their family. I will never work at the right job. I spend too much of DH's money. I expect DH to help around the house, which they object to. Honestly, I just get my feelings hurt.

This plumbing mess was just the icing on the cake. I think what irked the most was that they didn't apologize. Instead FIL essentially told DH to be grateful for the meal and to thank MIL. [/quote]

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