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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A couple years ago, my sibling and their spouse had their first child. I helped out extensively for a super long time. I was basically an unpaid nanny to them for 4 months or so, and sparingly after that. After a while I made my feeling known to them that i began to feel taken advantage of and unappreciated. Their response to that was basically "we disagree. no further discussion needed."

this caused a rift between us. Now they are expecting baby #2 and are turning on the sudden niceness and are using language that they expect me to be hands on deck. For my part, this will not be the case but I don't know how to respond that both is supportive/excited about child #2, but make it explicitly clear that I will not be there to help, at all. Their response when I told them I felt unappreciated still stings, and their sudden niceness now makes me wary. How would you respond in a supportive yet clear "no" kind of way?[/quote]

I would just bring it up in conversation.  Ie. "That's so awesome! What are your childcare plans for after the baby is born? Is your current care provider going to take Baby?"

"You thought I would do it? Oh, that's so sweet. I love my nieces/nephews so much! I'm so sorry that I can't. I have other commitments."

"You don't know what you're going to do?  Did you try CareLuLu? They help people sort all of that out. I hear they're great. They were started by a mom!"

Rinse, lather, repeat[/quote]

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