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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand all the reasons that people would explore this as an option, but I personally cannot get past the extremely colonialist mindset that says it's perfectly okay for a wealthy Western to go to a developing country and pay 1/3 the American price tag for a poor woman to carry a child for them. I also cannot get past the obvious and very real issues with the way that many parts of Indian culture treat women and girls. I would never be able to be 100% sure that the surrogate was not being coerced in some fashion.

I know that the same sort of economic coercion happens in the US and that surrogacy and adoption are by and large a luxury industry that people do not engage with unless they have the resources to do so. But given the colonial history of India and the gender issues that are pervasive in Indian society, I would personally not be comfortable with it and would have a hard time respecting friends of mine who chose that route, but that's a result of my personal politics and I don't know anyone personally who has chosen an Indian surrogate, so it's largely theoretical for me.[/quote]

I'm the PP who posted the info a about clinics. We felt the same way, so are doing a GC here in the YS. Our funds are limited and it may mean that we don't get our baby, but we just weren't comfortable with the India option. It's impossible to know if the women are being coerced or not, and the agencies we talked to don't allow any contact between you and the surrogate. That was a major red flag to me.[/quote]

The agency my friends worked with not only allowed it, they encourage it. They met regularly during the pregnancy and my friend's Indian parents would visit her frequently, and vice-versa. A year later, they celebrate holidays together. They have sort of become relatives. 
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Pp here. That's great to hear! I'm genuinely glad it worked out for them. Do you have the agency name? I'm not interested for my family, we're thoroughly invested in our current process, but it would be nice to have the info here for future searches. [/quote]

I do have a name but I'm hesitant to give it for fear of identifying my friend. I don't feel that's my right to do. [/quote]

I call BS then.[/quote]

That's fair. I won't tell you which clinic because I really do not want to out my friend, but I can provide tips on how to find the good ones.

For starters, track Indian regs on surrogacy. Ask the clinic to describe how they comply. (Never ask yes/no questions.) Ask them what practices they have in place to ensure that coercion is not a factor in the decision. Ask if you can have direct contact. (You're right that it's a red flag if they say no.) Investigate. Get the medical background of the doctors and clinic directors. Were they educated in the West? How long were they here? Have they published in top five journals? Have they chaired any international conferences or are there signs that they are widely regarded in the world? Have they published or do they have a track record of advocating for women's rights, GLBT rights, or other social justice issues? Find out if the clinic complies with global ethical standards for REs.

I'm doing this on an i-phone, so I can't get it all down, but I hope you can get a sense of how to go about separating the wheat from the chaff.
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