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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand all the reasons that people would explore this as an option, but I personally cannot get past the extremely colonialist mindset that says it's perfectly okay for a wealthy Western to go to a developing country and pay 1/3 the American price tag for a poor woman to carry a child for them. I also cannot get past the obvious and very real issues with the way that many parts of Indian culture treat women and girls. I would never be able to be 100% sure that the surrogate was not being coerced in some fashion.

I know that the same sort of economic coercion happens in the US and that surrogacy and adoption are by and large a luxury industry that people do not engage with unless they have the resources to do so. But given the colonial history of India and the gender issues that are pervasive in Indian society, I would personally not be comfortable with it and would have a hard time respecting friends of mine who chose that route, but that's a result of my personal politics and I don't know anyone personally who has chosen an Indian surrogate, so it's largely theoretical for me.[/quote]

I'm the PP who posted the info a about clinics. We felt the same way, so are doing a GC here in the YS. Our funds are limited and it may mean that we don't get our baby, but we just weren't comfortable with the India option. It's impossible to know if the women are being coerced or not, and the agencies we talked to don't allow any contact between you and the surrogate. That was a major red flag to me.[/quote]

The agency my friends worked with not only allowed it, they encourage it. They met regularly during the pregnancy and my friend's Indian parents would visit her frequently, and vice-versa. A year later, they celebrate holidays together. They have sort of become relatives. 
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Pp here. That's great to hear! I'm genuinely glad it worked out for them. Do you have the agency name? I'm not interested for my family, we're thoroughly invested in our current process, but it would be nice to have the info here for future searches. [/quote]

I do have a name but I'm hesitant to give it for fear of identifying my friend. I don't feel that's my right to do. [/quote]

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