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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, by the way you are relating to her, OP, I would not be surprised if she isn't comfortable around you. Have some compassion for immigrants and cultural differences.[/quote]

OP:  and how am I relating to her? I include her in all family activities,  I introduce her to our friends, I don't snub her.  Her daughter is always invited to playdates but since she barely speaks the language, it's really hard for our kids to play together.  But at least they try.  [/quote]

PP here. It's your tone of voice and general inability to see things from her perspective - there is a not-so-subtle disdain for immigrants in your post. You also refer to her as a "girl." And for the record, there is truly nothing wrong with the fact that her kid does not speak English very well - she will learn in time and probably be fluent by kindergarten/1st grade. If you were an American living abroad, can't you imagine teaching your child English as a first language and hanging out with other American expats? It is only natural. And as other PPs have mentioned, complaining about your new country is often a part of the acculturation process.

Now, if you genuinely have an issue w/ the way SIL is relating to you or your brother and your families, that's another story. But all I heard was hearsay based upon what your friend told you. And I imagine your friend is much more settled in the US, no? So sometimes that can make immigrants turn away from their home cultures. Just things to think about before jumping to conclusions...[/quote]

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