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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am the commiserating pp from
above. Our third (due any day now) was also not planned and DH has already started with the "this was YOUR idea."  And I also have preeclampsia. I am being induced in a few days. 
I am so worried for what he is going to be like after the birth.  
I already know he won't help with baby - I just hope he will help with the big kids. 
I have a part time nanny, (because I work full time) so that will help. 
Just wanted you to know you are not alone.

PS did the pre-e resolve after birth? I am hoping.  [/quote]

OP here, and I feel for you - I'm sorry my DH isn't the only craptastic guy right now. Wish we could chat offline for moral support. It helps. 
Anyhow, I am deciding to stop feeling sorry for myself and take better control of things as much as I can. Yes, the pree sucks. Yes, the thrush sucks. Yes, DH sucks now. I am feeling vulnerable and yucky. But I'm a strong woman and will get through this. I am planning to reach out to my mom and MIL to see if they can come down to help (both are out of state). And I do plan to tell MIL how her son is behaving. She and I are close, and maybe she can talk some sense into him. DH did not have the best paternal role model, and the apple doesn't fall far. I want him to be aware of the behavior he is modeling for our kids, similar to his own craptastic dad. And he needs to shape up bc #3 will grow to despise him, if he constantly hears that DH didn't want him.

As for the preeclampsia. In my case, it didn't resolve after birth. My BP dropped immediately after delivery and for 24 hrs thereafter. But then went up again.  I spent three extra days in the hospital working closely with a cardiologist to adjust meds bc I was having severe BP spikes (170/100). I hope you have better results. My doctors say that due to hormones after birth, BP typically reaches its highest levels 5-7 days postpartum, and that is when I had my spike. I'm now taking two different medications, and things seen to be slowly stabilizing. BPs are now ranging in 130s/70s. Cardiologist plans to start weaning off meds by 6 weeks if the downward trend continues. I had no BP issues prior to pregnancy and no preeclampsia issues with my previous two.

This pregnancy was a whammy on so many levels. And now with DH....
I'm just glad DS is here and healthy.

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