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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Too old for what?  Is he too old to have dinner with...spend time with...have sex with?  Apparently his equipment still works if he's got a toddler.  Yeah you can bullshit around for a few more years seeking that special someone who meets all the [b]meaningless prerequisites (he's gotta be this tall and have this type of haircut and be this astrological sign...)[/b] or you can enjoy an interpersonal relationship with someone that you have an attraction for and and may have a connection with now.  Up to you to decide.[/quote]

Actually, age is not a meaningless prerequisite.  I think there are very real issues dating someone two decades older than you (meaningful issues).  Height and haircut don't have potential meaningful issues.

But there is definitely the possibility of a power dynamic issue when a woman dates a man 20 years older.  It never seems like it when you start out, because he is courting you.  But it shows its head eventually, especially with certain types of men (and those tend to be the older men who are attracted to younger women).

I used to think age didn't matter.  But then I dated a man 20 years older.  It started out fine, but I realized soon enough that it did matter.  First, he would make subtle comments implying he knew better.  It just got worse from there.  I got tired of feeling like my life experience was discounted and meant nothing because he had 20 years more life experience than I.  And it never occurred to him that growing up in a different environment/time, I might have a unique perspective to offer.

He was also divorced.  His ex-wife was his age.  And I realized that he had moved on to younger women because deep down he was controlling.

I would rather be alone than date a much older man.  I don't think 5 years or maybe even 10 years makes as much of a difference.  But 20 years does.  Sure, there are relationships with a 20 year age difference that work out, but I think those are outliers and not the norm.[/quote]

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