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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  Stop looking for validation.  You are worried that your FB friends don't see your husband commenting.  You really just want your FB friends to think that you have a good marriage.  Maybe you do and maybe you don't but FB is not a good gauge of one's ACTUAL life.[/quote]

Not at all.  I just wanted him to acknowledge me and be a little bit happy that I posted something interesting/nice for him to see.  That I wrote a funny thing about him.  That I was thinking of him.  That I was proud of our wedding photo and wanted friends to see it who had not been to the wedding.  [/quote]

OP, your situation sounds sad to me. I don't FB, but I was in an unhappy marriage to a major withholder. He never gave compliments or even acknowledged when I'd do things to demonstrate my love for him. Routine stuff. At a certain point I did look up and around at other relationships to see if the absences in my marriage were normal. Was I really asking for too much? Was I "needy"? Nope, just married to a jerk.

It sounds like you don't feel connected to your partner or affirmed. FB is not the place to find it. I get that you were just wandering around your history and noticed the pattern of ignoring your public declarations. That would hurt anyone's feelings, to see a stretch of time when heartfelt statements weren't acknowledged, when the norm is to do so.

I just wanted to be happy and to share with my husband a sense of celebration at what (I thought) we'd found in each other.

I wish you joy, OP. Get off FB and into a serious conversation with your DH.

Report back, please. Let us know how it goes.
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