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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, the teacher says:
he knows his letters and letter sounds
he can read small words
he can count pass 100
he knows his numbers
he can add two groups of objects again
he loves show and tell
he has an impressive vocabularly
he is highly imaginative
he knows how to button, zipper and cut, but can not close a snap or tie his shoes

he doesn't like to participate in morning circle when they count the days of the school year aloud. He tends to zone off (highly imaginative) or situate himself near a container of toys so that he can touch them during the circle time.
He has good behavior otherwise, is not disruptive and does not fight.
she has noticed that he take things VERY seriously and seems upset when the older kids understand concepts faster than he does (but she says he always right behind the quick learners in his understanding)

she thinks keeping him back will do wonders for his confidence and willingness to try new things (he tends to say No, when asked to do something that might be hard)[/quote]

This describes my son!  He was accepted into a DC private school for pre-k but by winter they asked us to hold him back a year and repeat for many of the same reasons.  He was the only one that they held back in his class (I guess it doesn't happen very often).

It is true that holding him back a year didn't really change his personality.  Even as a current middle schooler he is young socially, even though he is one of the oldest in his class.  Also, eventually we did have to get a psych-ed.   He has low-processing speed.

The one huge benefit of holding him back is that he has had an extra year to let his executive functioning skills mature.  They were late to develop, along with his social skills, and he really needs them in place to succeed in high school.

If I remember correctly, my son asked a few times why he wasn't moving ahead with his peers.  We explained the reasons as best we could and he eventually accepted it.   It wasn't a big deal at all but it may have been because of the nature of the school.

I'd take your teacher seriously and do as the other suggest and get an opinion from the school counselor.   We heeded their advice and I haven't regretted it.   DS will still be 18 when he graduates from high school, which is very normal for a boy in this area.  He is in a school that expects a lot from its students and he definitely needed the extra year.
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