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[quote=Anonymous]There is a photo of my ILs sitting on a bookcase right near our bed in our bedroom.  I like it.  It doesn't feel like creepy eyes looking at us in bed.  It just reminds me, when I pass by it on my way to the bathroom, that they've gotten a bit older since the photo was taken, and I wish we could see them more often since they live across the country.

There is a photo of my mother sitting on the living room piano, across the room from me as I type this on my laptop.  It makes me happy too.  My father passed away six years ago, and when I see a happy photo of my parents together, in another room, it makes me miss him so so much.

I had an annoying MIL in my first marriage but I still never minded having an IL photo out in our family room.  I think the photo helped me feel kindly toward them whenever I looked at it, because in the photo they were happy and they were not interacting with me or my kids and making me feel uncomfortable, and it reminded me that they had good hearts even if they didn't really seem very warm interacting with their own grandchildren.

It's too bad you have unpleasant ILs.  I still think you are giving this photo way too much power over you.  I am frankly shocked that some of the posters would toss a photo in the trash.  I would regard that photo as an opportunity to practice charity in your heart whenever you see it.[/quote]

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