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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I find that I try to get along with my mother-in-law as much as possible.  I know that we don't have the same situation because my mother-in-law lives far away, but she visits us regularly and stays in our house.  She has very firm opinions about a number of things and makes it obvious what she wants us to consider.  I'm very communicative with her and will start with the same (as you) "Thanks, we'll consider X"  When she follows up with "Did you do X?"  I make sure to tell her "Oh, we researched it and we decided not to do X but to do Y." or "Yes, we looked into it and agree with you, so we'll be doing X."  As long as I'm as honest with her about her suggestions we do take as I am with her suggestions that I don't take, she seems to feel better or at least stops giving me the sour looks that says she doesn't approve.  This may or not work with your MIL as she is much closer and much more intrusive, but I have found that this keeps me and my mother-in-law on pretty good terms in the long run.  It's based on my parents philosophy which they taught me that you should always listen to advice from whatever sources you can find/get, then sift through the advice and use only that which works for you.  But I've found that often the advice that doesn't work for me now, may work for me later (like with a different child).  I've had a couple of times that I've been watching someone else's child and a piece of advice that my mother gave me that wasn't working for my child worked with the other child.

Good luck.[/quote]

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