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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with 14:32 to focus on the speech therapy.  It's about DC so it's the easiest sell, easier than "clean up after yourself more," and clearly the most consequential.

I'm a WOHM and DH is a SAHD. (I started a thread on it a few wqeeks ago actually) Baby is just 6 months so it's still a bit of a honeymoon period for us all.  He washes and dries laundry, I sort, fold, and put away. He cooks all meals we don't pay for, does most dishes, does about 80-90% of shopping when I'm at work (the rest we do together on weekends), drives me to and from work and brings the baby for lunch to BF. I make doc appts, we both go but he would go alone if need be.  He handles social scheduling.  We do the 6pm SAHP handoff where he gets dinner on the table and checks out for alone time, and I do baby's evening/bath/bed.

He does almost no cleaning or decluttering.  We can barely afford it but we have a housecleaner because I am too pooped right now to hold up that end of the bargain.  The bills are in my name and I pay them because it's just a mouse click.  Our DC has no special needs right now, but if there were any he'd work on them and execute any plan I come up with (he lets me take point on things that require research like that, we've done it with establishing the sleep schedule, for example).

The major difference I see in our sitch and how you talk about yours is that you guys don't seem to see each other as partners in the family. There's still a lot of whats-hers-is-hers, what's-his-is-his going on (you do your laundry and meals? he lost his job and _you_ gave up on his looking for another one?)  It's meaningful to me that you blame him for the speech delay but say he's a good engaged dad too.  Does he talk to DC all day or doesn't he?  How long have you been keeping score this way--since baby, or before?   Is he depressed? Isolated? Does he go to any of the SAHD groups?[/quote]

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