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[quote=Anonymous]OP,

I am your polar opposite.  I did not want to have children.  I never liked children and did not have any warm and fuzzy feelings about having a family.  I also have a terrible relationship with my sibling and my parents have over supported and favored my sibling for their entire life continuing to this day.  My sibling required no special care and has no disability or special needs.  So I knew that if I ever had any children, I would only have one.  I would never ever risk making a child feel like I have felt every day in my family since my sibling was born 40 years ago.

I met my husband who wanted nothing more than to be a dad.  He wanted to get married and have a child.  I wanted no kids, but wanted to get married.  We both agreed that we did not want to go to heroic measures to have a child if it turned out that one or both of us was infertile.  We also agreed that we would not adopt if we did not succeed the old fashioned way.  We agreed to one child (unless nature gave us more than one) and got married.  We had one child 10+ years ago and it has been great.  We have our little family.  We can focus all of our resources on one child.  We still have time for other interests beyond kid stuff.  I think our child asked for a baby sister a couple times when other kids started getting new siblings.  That passed pretty quickly and now she is very thankful to be an only child.  I have a lot more patience than I would if I had more than one.  I don't yell.  I rarely get short tempered.  I feel like my kid gets the best of me every day.[/quote]

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