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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you're not a twin or a parent of twins (especially identical twins), you need to refrain from responding. You don't get it and you never will.[/quote]

Oh get over yourself. [/quote]

Eh, I'm not a parent of twins, and I think the first PP is right. The only thing I'm going to say is that I found that taking my DC's concerns seriously has turned out to be a good thing. If I'd forced her into something that scared her out of some arbitrary idea that I needed to push her into independence, she would have been deeply upset if not traumatized. It also would have chipped away at her trust in me.

She's turned out to be an independent, well- adjusted, outgoing kid.  I'm not a parent of twins, but based on my experience with my singleton,[b] following the child's cues regarding what she's emotionally ready for is healthy[/b].[/quote]

I agree with this totally, and I have twins.  OP - I would say that you should trust your gut instincts and your knowledge of your kids.  I don't think separating them is important enough to warrant trauma or pain.  There will be plenty of time for them to be separated, I'd let them dictate the pace and keep a careful eye on how they're doing academically and socially to see if you see an emerging need for more separation.  I also like another poster's suggestions about how to gradually start having separate activities with them - I think that's a gentle and appropriate way to get them a little more comfortable functioning well away from each other.

But most of all, trust your own instincts.  Your kids are unique - you are best qualified to determine what is best for them.[/quote]

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