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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I'm kind of in a rut with my DH whom I love very, very much. At the same time I have been placed in close quarters with a male co-worker who I get along great w.  Lack of connection and stimulation at home + close contact and chemistry at work is causing me to get too comfortable with my co-worker and become aroused. I think he likes my company too. I'm not looking to get out of my relationship or stray. I am doing the work to get back on track with DH. How do I stop thinking about this other person sexually and prevent increasing closeness?

Changing work arrangement is not an option and neither is being cold to my co-worker due to the nature of our work. If I could move my office to a different building or change my work team I would, simply to remove these thoughts. I would love to zap it from my brain. Help! I need practical suggestions to right the ship both internally and with my co-worker.

TIA![/quote]

I was in your situation, or very similar to it, five years ago. I made the decision to cheat on my husband. I met someone new, and shortly after, I became convinced my husband and I had never been right for each other, had lost our connection, etc, and this new man was my true soul mate. It didn't take long before I was completely emotionally entangled in this affair. It was only recently that I broke off the affair for good.

Getting involved with someone else was the WORST decision I ever made. It harmed my mental health, my physical health because I was so stressed out all the time, and worst of all, it hurt my husband. We are only now starting to recover from the damage I did. Every day I ask myself how I could have been so stupid, thoughtless, and self-centered. Every day I am grateful that I still have my life with my husband. I'm not 100% certain our marriage will survive, and if it fails, it will be all my fault.

It sounds like you love your husband and are just bored-- trust me, you will regret it horribly if you get involved with this co-worker. Do whatever you can to get away from him![/quote]

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