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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I completely disagree that he needs privacy in your house, for the purpose of sex.  He wants it, but that didn't mean he needs it.  I think privacy for having sex is something that is earned in adulthood through getting into college or getting your own apartment.  It's one of the privileges of adulthood, not a right of childhood.

I absolutely would not allow it in my house.  Seriously, if they haw sex in a car, well, that's part of being a teenager.  My job as a parent is not to provide a place to have sex.  I don't think my 17 should be having sex -- it's just not respectful or intimate or cool to fuck someone in your parents' house with your door shut and your parent there.  Shoot, I wouldn't even have sex as an adult with my parents in another room!  Teens can wait to be alone and intimate.  And sometimes alone means in the car.[/quote]

I didn't say privacy to have sex, I said privacy.  I meant that the mother, once she's spoken with her son about using a condom, should not be metaphorically in the room ensuring he is using one.  OP is worried about "in the moment" and I'm saying she doesn't belong in that moment and shouldn't be mindful of it.  This is much more conceptual than the idea that they need a private room.

As far as preferring they have sex in a car, if that somehow seems rational to you, okey dokey.  From your description its clear that you will never have an honest conversation with yourDC about sex, which increases the chances it will not happen responsibly.

I'm struck by the number of people who are referring to their kids "fucking" in thus thread.  I use the word all the time, but not in connection with my kids.  It just comes off as creepy.  Gross.[/quote]

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