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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here I sent the nice message suggested and got back:

"It's your loss, you won't find better"

Yeah, red flags folks...[/quote]

Kudos on sending the message, but those flags aren't very red.  He's just showing he has self respect.  [b]What should he have said in this situation, [/b]something self derogatory, like "good move on your part, I'm a total ass clown"?[/quote]

Are you really that dense PP? He should have maintained his dignity and either said nothing or "good luck to you." Instead he went for the 7th grade jerk response which just confirmed OP's judgement.

How you see his response as "showing he has self respect" is concerning. How old are you? You can think that response to make yourself feel better, but mature adults with self-respect don't text that back. [/quote]

Dense PP here.  At this point, does he even have any dignity left to maintain?  OPs rejection note may have been cushioned in pleasantries, but at its core, the message is "you're not good enough", like all rejection messages are.  Saying nothing in response would have implied meek acceptance on his part.  Wishing her luck implies that she can't attract anyone (of his "caliber") with her own natural qualities; she needs some divine intervention of some lucky force.  It sounds like OP already had so many reasons built up against him that refraining from saying one 7th grade jerk response would not have restored him to her good graces.  Maybe rescuing a burning bus full of kindergarteners that plunged off the Bay bridge would have won him some favor - MAYBE, until the next date anyway.

Fwiw, (since time & age are recurring under currents in your post) I'm in my 30s, and I would never say say that response - I'm just not that conceited.  But I don't wish anyone luck if I don't think they need it, either.  It's a hollow sentimentality, and a backhanded way of saying "you won't find anyone better".[/quote]

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