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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, your wife and the kids' father(s) did a bad job raising them. [b]That's part of what you marry into. That's part of why 70% of second marriages fail.
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You need to prioritize what's important here, to your marriage, not to the kids.  Focus on that. If that includes the kids then I hear talk of presents and son in law helping on projects. I hear a desire that they come over and enjoy your company. But I don't hear anything about what you do to foster a relationship other than buying things. Have you offered to babysit to give the parents a break? Invited them to a play or dinner or some common activity?  Set up a Sunday night dinner that they can come to? Get season tickets to football or something else you all might enjoy? Attend their kids' school activities?

It is reasonable that the daughter is upset her husband spends a lit of time helping you, especially with kids in the picture. Parents of young kids do a lot of running around, cleaning up, entertaining,homework, additional housework, etc. much less try to have couple time themselves. Her annoyance is perfectly understandable.

Bottom line, in my opinion as a bio mom and step mom,[b] you need to foster a relationship outside of money and gifts.  And pick up a book or two on step parenting.[/b] Very helpful, IME.[/quote]

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