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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are crazy.  You have 4 kids, 3 of whom are under 4, a DH who travels a lot, and a MIL who is willing to take them for 2 days??  It seems insane to not take advantage of your MIL's willingness to help.

Also, I think it would be wrong to interfere with your kids relationship with their grandma.  Yes, you do have to work on the behavior, but there must be better ways of doing it than keeping them away from their grandma.

I'm not sure what's up with your MIL not helping, but perhaps she doesn't think it is her role to discipline when you are standing right there? If you want her to pitch in with discipline or managing the transition, then talk to her about it. [/quote]

All this right here. If the kids are safe and happy, but just upset to leave happy fun grandma land, gosh, that doesn't sound like a problem. And I am usually pretty critical of MILs.  She is probably letting you take back over--and perhaps happily.

I would have a talk with your oldest before the next visit. If she is old enough as you say to control her emotions a bit more, ask her about how things melt down when you get there. See if she has ideas--maybe there is some way the grandparents could help. Give a few heads ups before you arrive for pick up. Ask your oldest to help pick up, etc. There has got to be a way to smooth this out.

Meanwhile, sounds like you are feeling a bit taken for granted by your DH--that is a totally different issue. Punishing his parents is shooting yourself in the foot.[/quote]

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