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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Jesus, people, who makes the rules in your houses? The petulant teenagers? You'd cancel, really, because your kid pitched a fit? Your kid who has taken advantage of someone else's hospitality to the benefit of her own college applications??

I smell another "affluenza" defense coming. [/quote]

Seriously.

As a teen, my parents hosted multiple exchange students.  If I had EVER "pitched a fit" about it, the results would have been 
1) a HARD smack, to the point of injury (yes, it happened before with other things)
2) Screaming and yelling about how since I didn't pay the mortgage, it was not my house and therefore I had no say in what happens.

I simply can not fathom the idea that a kid rules the roost in the way that some of the PPs are suggesting they should.[/quote]

So you recommend the OP injure her teenager for being uncomfortable with the idea and complaining? [/quote]

No, I don't recommend injuring anyone--but it's completely bizarre to me that so many of the posters here seem to think that a CHILD has more say in what occurs in the house than the ADULT who provides it.[/quote]

What many people are advocating here (me included) is that the child's opinion should be heard and her concerns addressed to the extent possible--because this is the proper way to treat people--and then the adult/owner of the home should make the final determination of what is going to happen. In this case, the "right" thing to do is to give back by hosting a student, and of course the offer has already been extended so shouldn't be revoked except due to emergency circumstances (e.g., family illness). Knowing what the right thing to do is, and knowing that you will act in that way, does not preclude a parent from listening to the concerns of her children and helping to address them to the extent possible. No one needs to scream or hit and no one needs to shame or belittle this teen in order for the ADULT to make a final ruling.[/quote]

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