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OP, why did your wife leave the workforce after your first child? Why do you want her to earn money, and why do you secretly resent her for not doing so? Does she have champagne tastes on a beer budget? Does she seem miserable being at home? Are there things she could do that would make staying at home more tenable to you? Have you told her any of this? If not, why? Having children impacts women in a fundamental way. You can discuss "what will happen after kids come along" until the cows come home, but until they do, your wife has no idea how she will feel. Given that she's been out of the workforce for so long, and that you'll have two kids who need childcare, I doubt her income from any job will help with the bills as much as you think. I'd also be very careful with your language, re "investing in herself". All of us, everyday invest in ourselves. Most of us can't tie a dollar amount to it. If you'd laid out money for her to do medical transcription, and she chose to drink wine instead of go to class, then say that openly. Since you didn't say that, the message I take away from your posts is that you view your wife as a flawed human being who's only value to you is "helping with the bills" except she's not even capable of that. Imagine how soul crushing that would be if you were on the receiving end. [/quote]

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