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Jesus, why do you think it is that your relationships all end in nuclear meltdown fashion?[/quote]

+1 the commonality is PP. [/quote]

Hahaha..whatever!  Yes, I was a common factor in those two relationships - as I said, I didn't always choose partners wisely.  Once I stopped being drawn in by drama queens and insecure women, I started leading a drama free life. I'm now married to a wonderful woman and we have disagreements but no more "fights".

Not all of my relationships ended dramatically, but one of those did.  You are kidding yourself if you think lots of otherwise perfectly normal and healthy people - men and women - don't succumb to anger and lashing out - your so-called "nuclear meltdown" - when they are told they're being dumped.  Either that or you're one of those drama-laden people who wants to project the blame on the dumper.

My ex-wife was angry for a good six months, and would always want to start a fight - lashing out with very low blows intended to humiliate and enrage me - whenever I saw her.  I knew her tender spots too and I just reminded her we could sit around and hurt each other, or move on sensibly.  After six months, we were able to negotiate amicably enough - we did not have a contested divorce and paid only one attorney a minimal amount to draw the papers up (like we wasted <$2k total on legal fees)  - the better for both of us.  I agreed to postpone the final divorce filing for almost three years to ensure she could remain on my insurance coverage (lots of pre-existing conditions).  About five years after we split, she told me her friends - our old mutual friends - had told her she needed to stop being angry at me, and that I was a decent guy who had not been evil to her.  It was nice to have someone stick up for me and it was nice not to have lost those friends - which I'd expected since I was the "bad guy" who'd left.  I could easily have been a hard ass with a 50/50 split and I'd have been several hundred thousand dollars to the richer.

My ex-gf is a crazy person - she was abusive both verbally and physically.  She is now on her fourth husband, and that one can't get away easily since she finally got pregnant before he could dump her.  I feel bad for him, but I'm just relieved she will never be in my life again.  You're right: I was the one who chose to be with her, but that doesn't make me the source of the drama.  [/quote]

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