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[quote=Anonymous][quote]A PP here--look, it would bother me even if I was not pregnant. Every marriage is different and in ours, this is not ok. And the lying, of course, is even worse. When you talk with him, please do not reference your "hormonal" pregnant state. It's dismissing your credibility. You would be upset to be lied to and at the threat of another woman touching your DH even if you were not pregnant, I think.

Yes yes it has to be face to face and during a time when kids are in bed and not going to interrupt you at a critical moment. Get the phone off the hook and cell phones in another room where you can't hear them dinging.

You should ask him again (don't tip your hand) before you tell him you saw his "down low" reply. Because if you don't, then he's not going to say "oh you heard me wrong two months ago" or anything. He will be there with the just-said lie, and this is where you DON'T pounce (like a cross-examiner would) because you are trying to make the marriage better. So you don't pounce, but you calmly wade into the murky mess with your evidence, and then hopefully get to a place where the two of you can wade back out together, hand in hand.

It will be fine, OP. And I know the lie is the more important thing, but also it's relieving that this discussion is happening before, not after the event.[/quote]

OP here.  I think you are right.  Thank you for this and this is what I plan on doing.   Oh, and he already knows that it bothers me pregnant or not!  I never blame stuff on that...hate it when women blame PMS for legit complaints or concerns too![/quote]

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