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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I stood up for a small, defenseless animal.  I don't feel bad for a second.  If I had told you that a week before this happened she had tried to surrender the dog (who is 13 and has lived with her it's entire life) to the county animal shelter, what would you think then?
You pretend to know me and how Iove my life from a post on an anonymous forum. [b] You don't know a thing about me.[/b] [/quote]

Actually we do.  You shared everything we need to know.  [/quote]

Hardly[/quote]

NP here.  Of course you did.  You shared that you are a condescending arrogant person who judges all aspects of her sister's life and meddles in places where you think she is especially delinquent.  Your sister has spent years living with your attitude and your latest action to criticize her for not treating a dog when they are struggling financially (granted, caused by their poor financial management skills) was the straw that broke the camel's back and she has decided that she needs to cut you off because she probably considers you the toxic relative.  I'm not sure that you're going to redevelop a relationship with your nephew until you find a way to stop judging her because she probably won't open up again until she feels that she can be around you without your criticism bleeding into all of your body language, intonation, and facial expressions. You convey your attitude plenty through your writing, I'm sure it's more painfully obvious from your non-verbal communication.[/quote]

You have no idea what you're even talking about.  
You don't know me or anything about my life.
I find it rather odd and slightly creepy that you assume to know me or "my issues."
DCUM is full of amateur psychologists today.[/quote]

Your writing is laden with overtones of condescension, arrogance and judgement.  Either you are schizophrenic, a fantastic poker player/actor, or you convey a lot of that through non-verbal communication.  Based on your writing and your sister's reactions, I would bet that I understand your sister's reactions far better than you do.  And stop and look back through this thread.  About 75-80% of the posters also think along these lines.  I think you're deceiving yourself and you need to take a really good hard look at yourself and how you treat your sister.  If you want to reestablish a relationship with your nephew, I think you're going to need to do a lot more introspection than you're willing to admit.  But then, it may not matter.  Even if you do, it may only be for personal improvement and your sister may still leave you cut out of their lives.[/quote]

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