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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was reading the "Im 26 and never had a boyfriend thread" and figured you all could give me some advice, too. I know DCUMs are really harsh and mean so i'm prepared for the insults.

Here's my situation. Raised in a highly educated household by parents who expected me to marry a certain sort of individual. Bought into it for through college. Had college boyfriend who was terrible so spent my 20s dating and having fun and not being worried about it (and with a few long relationships in there). In my early 30s I met a seemingly great guy whom I dated for 3 yrs but who ended up being a jerk and spent the next several years getting over the pain and betrayal. The rest of my 30s I dated a lot but never found anyone (turned down on proposal). In my 40s I adopted a child and moved overseas and enjoyed life though I felt a huge part was missing. Now I am heading towards 50 and am really sad that it may not work out for me and DC. I don't look 25 but 'black don't crack' so honestly I do look young for my age. 35 tops. (Think Halle Berry, Nia Long, Vivica A. Fox, Angela Bassett.. I'm not flawless like them bc I don't have their long dollars but I look good for my age). I went to decent schools, can carry on a conversation, am funny.. blah blah blah. Yes, I have a child but so do most women my age.

Been on numerous dating sites since time is really limited now. Have a few male friends who want to date exclusively but it's hard to settle with any of them because at this point I just don't see it. I MAY, just don't as of yet. I'm not necessarily picky but I do expect the man to be kind, interesting, sexy, intelligent and family oriented at the very least. I am open to men with children and they don't have to be gorgeous or rich. I'm feeling like I should just move back overseas where at least we can have an interesting life full of interesting friends and travel to exotic locales (which I can't afford from here)... but dating in some parts of the world is even more difficult!

C'mon DCUMs! Get me a proposal before 50![/quote]
Wow you sound great that is so crazy that you've dated but never married.  Did you ever turn down any proposals?  You're sexy intelligent and sophisticated I bet you have guys willing to leave their wives to be with you.  It must be hard finding someone comparable at this age who isn't taken.  Maybe you should just give in and steal someone's man.  There'd be guilt initially but happiness will trump it in time.[/quote]

Before resorting to the "steal someone's man" advice, consider dating younger men, instead. Give yourself a broad age range of, 30/35-55, so that you can have fun with the dating process. Have you tried Parentswithoutpartners.org or singleparentmeetup.com? How abouthttp://www.dcfortypluspro.com/index.cfm?action=aboutdcfpp, which arranges fun events and activities (free membership), where you could meet some friends with interests in all kinds of cultural events.  A number of couples I know met through interest groups online, for example one couple met through an academic listserv and another met through involvement with a neighborhood group which had meetups.  Most of all, have some fun outside of parenting, find a friend before you settle down, and don't get discouraged by crazy posters on DCUM.[/quote]

I'm one of the 40+ year old women who posted on here.  Appreciate your advice but just so you know: There are no single parents meetups in DC.  I've looked.  There is no local chapter of Parents without Partners.  I've looked.  I checked the dcfortyplus site you listed...no events listed on the calendar.  The NYE party from 2005 is still on there.  Just saying...it's tough.  [/quote]

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