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[quote=Anonymous]PP, I completely agree that we could all live more simply overall. I don't think it really makes a difference whether the wife in this picture is working or not. She says they made a budget, and their travel budget for a year, per that budget, is $1000. If her husband wants to fly everyone to see his family 4x a year for about $1200, that exceeds the travel budget with just ONE trip, not to mention the 4 he thinks are required to give his family equal time to hers, who are local. She stated that he will not even discuss her staying behind on one of these trips (which would reduce the cost). That seems like an elegant solution, and one you yourself have utilized to maximize the relationship with grandparents that is important to your family.

I don't make a ton of money either. My household income is less than the OP's. We live as simply as we can. My family lives on the West Coast. It costs us about $1000 to fly out there to see them, which is a lot of money for us to spend all in one shot. I spend months saving money to make those trips possible. We are able to go, at most, twice a year.

When you say "we will never miss the money as much as we'll miss them when they are gone", I don't disagree with you, but for MY budget? I'd love to go see my mom every other month. She's got a chronic condition that will likely shorten her life by a couple of decades. I would move there if I could, to spend more time with her. But flying out there twice as often as we do already would mean that we would never be able to do anything else. I would never be able to get DD birthday presents or Christmas presents. There wouldn't be any splurges. We wouldn't be able to go see the movie she desperately wants to see this weekend. I love my mom. DD loves my mom. My mom loves us. But she would never want us to prioritize flying 10 hours across the country at the expense of every other fun thing we get to do. I made a budget and I stick to that budget. If the budget says "This thing is not possible", we don't do that thing.[/quote]

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