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[quote=Anonymous]My husband makes a generous salary, and his income has allowed me to leave my job and go to graduate school full-time this year. I absolutely love my grad program and am completely happy about this.

But if DH said to me tomorrow that the finances were just too tight and my grad school was killing us, I would without question dust off my resume and go back to work. I'd be so sad about it, but there wouldn't even be a question. If our ability to pay the bills is at stake, I do what I need to do to fix that, regardless of what I *want* to do. I mean, duh. Of course.

While I don't love the whole Man Should Provide/Labor At Home is Worthless undertones to this conversation, I think the OP is right to expect her husband to put the basic solvency of the family unit above his personal desires, and right to feel betrayed that he hasn't.

There's a lot more going on here than just money, and of course we only have one side of the story. But it doesn't sound like the guy is all-in on this partnership.

That said, OP - though I understand why you're cautious and I would be, too, a man who is selfish in this way is unlikely to take off with a child and consign himself to the hard work of single parenthood. If it helps at all.

Still, second these suggestions for lawyers and counselors and etc.[/quote]

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