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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At some point he needs to internalize both his responsibility for homework, and the grades he earns.  The more involved you are, the less concerned he needs to be about it (because you are doing it for him).

I would back off and let him be 100% responsible for doing his homework (or not), and for the fallout from not doing homework.

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That was a dismal failure with us.  Our kid just isn't up to the organizational requirements of his teachers (who all have their own system - I am barely up for the challenge). If I leave it all to him, he will end up miserable in school when his work isn't done (since he won't have done the reading and won't know what's going on and that doesn't work for him).  This will be followed by withdrawal and disengagement.  With my kid's personality, we will create an underachiever with enough ability to pull it off, but we'll have a disengaged and unhappy underachiever.  Yes, he needs to internalize it, but he has to internalize it in bite-sized pieces.[/quote]

Totally agree with PP on this for our daughter too. Yes she needs to learn to handle it on her own but one teachers requirements overwhelm her current capacity to cope and she feels like a failure. So we leave her to her own devices in all but that one class. Also having her tested in this area. There is a reasonable middle way that I think is highly variable according to individual kids needs.[/quote]

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