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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
My parents took the step you want to and neither is happy now. Mom pulled the trigger instead of going for counseling . My sisters and I still can't figure out how you can be happy through close to 30 years of marriage (and they were-lots of physical affection) and not be able to find the energy to make it through a rough patch. The travel plans they made went in the toilet, mom is very poor and neither landed on their feet romantically. As adult children we are very resentful. We had a good family life growing up and now hate holiday meal negotiations over who is going to see who. Our family no longer exists and I have never forgiven my mom for leaving for no good reason. Don't do it. Your kids will hate you.

Wake up and grow up, Child! There was most likely a very good reason, but didn't feel they owed you the details. You know far less than you think about your parents and their marriage. It was their choice to make and I'm sure it doesn't mean they loved you any less. There is only so much a person can take and it sounds like they'd had enough of whatever misery they were in.

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I agree.  Your parent's marriage is not about you as an adult child.  BTW, that 30 year "happy" marriage was probably not so happy.  Expecting your parent's to live the remainder of their lives in misery so that you can live a fantasy and not have to "negotiate" holidays is extremely selfish.[/quote]

It's extremely selfish when divorced parents expect you to split your time between them and the spouse's parents. Sometimes you suck it up and deal with your ex or just see the grandkids less. Some families cannot afford to spend the money it takes to deal with visiting parents separately and they should not be forced to use up all of their vacation days trying to please adults who cannot be civil. You have a right to do what is best for your own well-being, but so do your kids and grandkids. If you still have unresolved feelings toward your ex, get help, but keep the kids and grandkids out of it.[/quote]

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