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See, here is the thing.  OP does not represent the USG.  Her husband does.  She is just a spouse.[/quote]

Every American outside the US represents America.  People who travel to places they think of as "sh*&tholes" exude a kind of ugly American attitude that the world is better off without.  If OP really feels that way about the next assignment, then it's better for her to stay in the US and develop her own life and meet her husband for several times a year for a week or so at a time.

I don't know why someone would join the foreign service or marry a person in the foreign service and not expect to have to face the choice to travel to these assignments or endure family separations.  It's part of the job.  If your husband was a firefighter, would you complain that he has to sleep at the station when he was on duty?  People join the foreign service thinking it's some kind of roving cocktail party.  It's not.  It's a service branch.  And the US taxpayer doesn't owe you a cushy posting in Paris.  [/quote]

Easy to say, but still hard. Spouses need support. Many spouses (like me) married before the overseas posts came along. The US government provides little to no support for overseas spouses. It's hard and frequently you can't work. It's not an easy job and you give up your career to provide support to your spouse. [/quote]

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