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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is definately true 
Today, not even three years after our wedding, I woke up in bed alone. Again. My wife, Susan, has slipped out to breast-feed our 2 years -old son, Jackson. Curled up with him on the extra bed in the nursery, she often falls asleep there. Which means she's not coming back to me. I know in my heart that my wife loves me. But could she actually love someone else even more?

At first, I thought, Who could honestly complain about this? A newborn needs and deserves all the attention you can give. In the beginning, I was eager to do every small task to make my wife, to make them, more comfortable, from fetching the bunny blanket to doing diaper duty. But lately, I've been feeling like my role has been reduced to being the family Jeeves. What about my needs?
 When I encountered rival suitors during my dating years, I knew my best chance involved removing the other man from the equation. So I invited my wife out to dinner. Alone. Cagily, she professed to look forward to it. "Just us," I think she said. No sooner had we sat down at a nearby trattoria and drawn the napkins across our laps than it became clear there was no "just us," and there might never be again. "Would you call the sitter, see if he's okay?" Susan asked.
 "We just left him five minutes ago," I pleaded over the glasses of wine we hadn't yet tasted. "I'm sure he's fine."
 "But I miss him," Susan said. I knew there was no reasoning with that. Love is love. Soon after our entries arrived, she confessed that she wanted to get home to tuck him in. I paddleboated the plate of fusilli alla verdura into my mouth to keep up with her pacing, and we dashed home. Alas, alas! He was already asleep, and I made my move. "Let's go to bed," I said, and, after coaxing her there, complimented her lingerie: a nursing bra. "Those snaps in the front are very convenient," I joked. But I knew this convenience had nothing to do with me. Not only has my son taken control of my wife's every thought, he has enforced his presence on every inch of her body

My many friends told me the same thing they are experiencing. What baffled me was not their stories, but how unfazed they were by their emotional abandonment, as if they were, unlike me, resigned to the fact that they could never be as important as the kids. What's more, they warned me that talking about it with my wife would only make things worse, that my feelings of dissatisfaction or loneliness would only be belittled or lampooned. Of course, I had to learn the hard way.
 
 There's no changing it. For the foreseeable future, in my wife's eyes, Jackson comes first. I come second. So who am I miffed at -- Jackson? Of course not. He's just being a toddler, and I love him. Susan? Well, maybe a little.
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 And Maybe over time I'll learn that my situation's not so bad.  I begun to take my eyes off .

Sorry for the long post OP but I wanted to share this.
And that TED talk and mri scan are interesting.[/quote]

You sound like a giant boob. Emotional abandonment? Holy shit. I hope you're trolling. Whaaaaah whaaah, but what about MY needs, said the grownup. Look, your wife is dealing with two toddlers (you and the baby). One of them will grow up and need her less, and then the cycle of life will shift again. Thing is, if you keep mooning about like a deserted and resentful toddler yourself, wife will drop you as she should. 
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I think I would get even worse response from my wife if I share my feelings with  her. It  was just my honest feelings. Why attack me like that ?
Now I couldn't care less about it as I am used to it. Its been 2 years since we had sex. And its getting worse . She don't even want to go for  a single date with me anymore. Our son is her whole word and I most definately not a part of her world anymore.

Of coruse I still love them like craZy and that is why I provide for them and help susan in everything I could.

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Yes, I think she loves your son more than you; and I don't like that. I strongly believe in putting your husband before your kids. The reason I say this is because (like you said), he'll start to feel lonely. Next thing you'll know, everything thing is about your son. You see how he interfere with something as simple as date night? It'll get worse. Then, it'll be about Jackson and preschool and his activities. Then, it'll be about Jackson and school. If you have another child, it'll be about Jackson and the new baby. http://gma.yahoo.com/video/gma-giuliana-rancics-controversial-secrets-080000474.html

If she keeps this up, you'll probably be divorced by the time he starts elementary school (statistically true - read this for proof).
If you watch the segment, you’ll meet these two female bloggers who basically say the kids always come first and then laugh about where their spouses fall on the list…. “If you asked me what the breakdown was I would say my children, my girlfriends, then my husband. But…don’t tell him that because he doesn’t know it.” And then they laugh hysterically like it’s all a big joke. [/quote]

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