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[quote=Anonymous]I've gone through majority of my life with certain expectations of my parents simply because of what some other parents do for their kids...  like giving me xmas presents or showing up to my college graduation or inviting me to a family vacation.  it brought nothing But anger and resentment for years.  I tried my best to invite them to go to various restaurants, to go hiking, giving them gifts that I thought they would like.  Then I decided one day that my efforts were a waste of my time and to just let go of expectations.   My mom helped me out with my first newborn by coming over for a few hours a day.  Then it was Mother's Day and I didn't do anything for her.  She was pretty much livid with me for a few years.  When I had my second child, I had to have csection and later hospitalized for infection.  when I came out, I took care of my two kids under 2 by myself during the day because she never came.  She lived 20 minutes away and didnt work.  She didn't want to do anything for me because she didnt get anything in return last time.  I just have to remember they have their lives and like anybody else they choose to live them as they please.  Just because they are "family" doesn't mean they are reliable or are supposed to be a certain way.  Everybody's different family or not.  They live 20 minutes away but I don't expect them to call or come and they very seldomly do.  I now concentrate on my own family and as much work as my little ones are, they've brought nothing but pure joy and unconditional love to my life.  All the anger I had towards my parents melted away once I dropped all my expectations and concentrated on my own family.[/quote]

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