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[quote=Anonymous]I live across the country from my mom, but definitely think of her as a friend.  We had some rough times when I was younger, in part because our personalities are SO different, but she's an awesome and admirable woman, supportive of me and my goals, and a lot of fun to spend time with!

When I was younger, she would say, "I'm your mother, not your friend," which annoyed me, but I think she had it right.  She did what she thought was best for me, even if I didn't "like" her for it--she was always the adult and someone I could rely on, and it made me feel safe.  She never dumped her personal stuff on me when I was too young to handle it.  She never tried to live her life through me--no micromanaging the wedding, no pushing me into a certain career, etc.  I think it also helped that she always acknowledged my gifts, which were different than hers--she made it clear when she was proud of me and admired me, but I never felt like she only loved me because of my accomplishments.  That infrastructure of love and respect meant that after the rough teenage years passed, we had a foundation to build on.

Now that we're both adults, we talk about problems, she's a loving grandmother to my daughter, and we have a great relationship.  I really hope that my daughter and I have one as good.  [/quote]

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