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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom was a great mom but we aren't close. We are in each others lives and we keep in touch and connect on a superficial level but we aren't 'best friends'! We are like very friendly acquaintances. I don't mind her company. I don't ask her advice, or tell her my problems. I am much closer to my sister than my mother.

I don't think everyone really needs to be close to their mothers. It isn't a slight against my mother. We are two different people and as adults, I just don't really need her in life in a 'deep' way.
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Can you pinpoint why you are just "like very friendly acquaintances" instead of close? My mom is close to her mom, I am close to my mom, and it scares me that absent serious misbehavior on my part that my daughters and I still might not be close one day. [/quote]

i am the +1 PP.

i am 40 years old, my mom is 65.  she is a really positive, warm person but she has no boundaries and wants to control my life and my relationships.  also, anything i share with her is fair game for her to repeat to all of her friends and neighbors.  she has always been like that.  thus, i cannot trust her to 1) keep her mouth shut as i tend to be private about my life, and 2) keep out of my relationships with people we have in common.

also, growing up my dad was a royal asshole and treated me like crap.  my mom never stood up for me and let him get away with it but tried to compensate by being "attentive" (read: controlling).

so, friendly acquaintances it is.[/quote]

PP here again.  ok, maybe my mom wasn't a "great" mom, but i do believe that she did the best she could.  but i am still left with how it affects me.[/quote]

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