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I feel very much the same way as other PPs.  My mom did the best she could raising me and my parents were good parents but over the years, my mother has become very insecure and critical, especially once I had kids.  I feel like there are a lot of things that are easier not to tell her because she will either a. find something wrong with how I am doing things or b. take what I have done as a personal slight to her, even when it had nothing to do with her.  And I'm not talking about criticizing big decisions--she made a comment the other day on the birthday party theme (a well-known cartoon character) that I selected for my 3-year-old.  Another example--she texted me the other day all upset over a comment that I made on Facebook that had NOTHING to do with her.  She isn't even on Facebook but read it on my dad's account.  Seriously--it's Facebook--who cares!!

But these are the kinds of stupid conversations that I have with her every time I share anything with her so I do tend to hold back a lot or avoid doing or saying things that will get back to her because I don't feel like dealing with her attitude.  I feel like I have to constantly tiptoe around her in an attempt to not hurt her feelings because she blows everything out of proportion.  She called me last night and I didn't call her back yet because I was sick and fell asleep when the kids went down.  I'm avoiding calling her back tonight because I'm sure that it will somehow be turned into an insult against her rather than the simple fact that I wasn't feeling well.[/quote]

This is exactly how I feel about my mom. Right down to getting a call from her over the weekend and avoiding returning it. Every time I think about returning her call, I get annoyed because I can already picture the conversation we'll have. I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my third, and I want to put off telling my parents as long as possible. Problem is that my younger sister took a positive test yesterday and immediately told everyone in the family. I know she is going to be mad that I'm also pregnant ("you already have two! Isn't that enough? I hope you don't expect me to come out and help again like I did last time because I cannot do that again. I cannot.") but she'll be equally mad that I kept it a secret while my sister spilled her news five minutes after her BFP. Can't win so I've stopped trying. I have two boys and am hoping the third is also a boy because I'm worried about having a similar relationship with a daughter, just because I don't know what it's like to have a healthy mother-daughter relationship (though my mom and sister are very close).[/quote]

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