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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oops cut off

...like training a puppy. It works much better if I thank him for the things he remembers to do. And remind nicely to do whatever else. He's much more responsive to the positive feedback and it has worked in altering some behaviors (actually on both our parts). I also stopped being mad at some things, he just doesnt see the dirt/mess and I can't expect him to fix it if it doesn revenue register as a problem. Good luck OP. [/quote]

Really? Did you really [i]just compare interactions with your DH to `training a puppy'?[/i]

This here is the problem. You're not in charge. It's not for you to give direction at all. The moment you do, you're out of line, and the more you persist, you're a nag.

The entire paradigm of "my husband doesn't do what i tell him, am I a nag" starts with the premise that you're in a position to tell him what to do in the first place. You're not. You're projecting [i]your[/i] values. Maybe he doesn't care about the dishes in the sink -- that's [i]your[/i] deal if you do. If you don't like them that way, clean up. But don't demand he do it and complain when he doesn't.[/quote]

Really? Are you for freaking real???

Why woul one get married if they didn't want to share chores?[/quote]

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