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[quote=Anonymous][quote][quote]PP here again. It's not even about the stroller it sounds like you don't respect his opinion in parenting. He is just as much of a parent as you. You're demeaning him. Get a divorce if you want, but don't cry abuse because you're unwilling to share parenting equally. [/quote]

If he wants a say in things he needs to share the burden, too. Not command me to do things his way.[/quote]

I agree OP.  I think the posters who are basically advising you to follow your husband's child-rearing orders with blind obedience are absurd.  Yes, both parents get input, but we are not talking about choosing a school or daycare or other big picture issues; this sounds just like the mundane everyday stuff that really each parent should decide for themselves [i]when they are taking care of the kid[/i].  (And if they are not doing the daily caretaking, well, the answer follows.)  In terms of going forward, I think you should take the opposite tack.  Be polite but firm about your boundaries: allowing a controlling person to control even more is a downward spiral.  And encourage DH to be more involved with your son - even if it means planning something for them one-on-one - or pushing for family activities you think DH will enjoy.[/quote]

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