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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- I never said I was abused.
From reading the replies I start thinking that our parenting styles with H are just very different. Just like here- there are different opinions on strollers, public toilets, etc.[b] I don't think there is a right and a wrong on things like that. Partners just have to agree.[/b]
What hurts me is that his input in parenting is mostly in criticizing. He never takes DS for walks, errands, etc- he could execute his stroller filosophy in these, not by criticizing me.[/quote]

But agreeing doesn't always mean doing it your way.

It sounds OP like since your child has been born that maybe that he has become your sole focus and priority. Your husband sounds like someone who feels like he has been excluded and he is resentful. It sounds like he feels this is your son because you are closely aligned with your son and his input / opinion get shot down or you lose your cool if he speaks up. Basically it sounds like the dynamic between the two of you has gone off the rails. Have you still make your marriage and your relationship with your husband a priority? Has he spent time alone with the child, have you shown him you trust him? Have you had discussions where you talk about how you both view parenting and look at how to compromise?

It sounds like he is frustrated and feeling shut out. You react to this by pulling away more and aligning with your child. The cycle repeats. [/quote]

I think this is what my husband thinks, too.
Except I do trust him with our son; he just is not interested. [/quote]

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