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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading this thread makes me so very, very, very thankful for my big, crazy southern family.  I'm also really glad I married someone with a similar cultural, family, and religious background.  Marriage is hard enough without adding all this shit to it.

First - House guests for several weeks?  I would go insane!  My parents and my in-laws come visit twice a year for about 3-4 days max!  No way would they expect me to entertain them for weeks at a  time.  My sisters and brothers plus their kids might come once a year but we usually meet somewhere neutral.  We see everyone when we go home a couple of times a year.

Second - Guests eat whatever I cook. I do try to cook things that I know they like.  Both my parents and my in- laws are really easy to please.  And they always take us out to eat at least once.

On the flip side, when we go visit them it would never in a million years occur to me to ask them to purchase specific foods for us.  My kids never got special meals either.  They have learned to eat whatever is served to them with a gracious thank you.

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How is your family being southern germane to the topic? :roll:[/quote]

Not pp, but i I think culture is relevant here.

I'm a southern wasp and agree that visits are kept to three four days, you eat what served and pretend you like it even if you dont, and often offer to cook or go to the grocery  store and you certainly don't expect people to purchase special foods for you. It's considered fine to go to the grocery store and go get your own food if you want.

My sister in law is Jewish and jokes about how her family operates totally differently. Her parents call in advance of their visits and insist on getting a list of their favorite foods and stock the kitchen with it. She thinks its odd that my parents don't bend over backwards stocking their kitchen with their food requests. But the flip side is, she is expected to stock her kitchen with specific food requests when her parents visit.

I've also observed from friends with family in India that looong visits are very normal and the guests are very high maintenance (wrt food, rides, activities, etc).[/quote]

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