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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the PP who said she's not have much luck striking up conversations -- [b]beware that some insecure wives out there are going to think you're trying to pick up their husbands[/b].  Being friendly ans striking up conversations is all it takes.  If I get that jealous vibe, I'm out of there.  I'm a friendly, talkative person -- always.  To married men, single men and all of the women.  I need female friends too.  It can be lonely as a single mom.

Anyway, I have a 2-3 good couple friends.  Women who know I'm not out to get their husbands and husbands who just present a different perspective socially.  I go out with them as the third wheel sometimes.  No biggie.

I've met most of the men I've dated online.  When I'm at kid activities, I'm focused on the kids and it's hard to tell someone's situation.  I know a lot of the other parents don't realize we're divorced unless it comes up.

Not sure how the PP thinks this is her newly ex H."  There are a lot of them out there![/quote]

But wouldn't they be right in thinking you are trying to pick up their husbands given that you are suggesting meeting people to date at a park, so your reason for "striking up conversations" is to meet people to date?

I'm not saying don't be chatty at the park, but you can't on the one hand flat out admit that you try to meet people to date at the playground and then accuse wives of suspecting you're hitting on men at the park!

If people didn't try to date at the park, it would be a nonissue.  And then no one would have to be suspicious of casual chatting.

A kid's playground really shouldn't be seen as a place to find dates.  It creates unnecessary tension and, yes, suspicion.[/quote]

Nobody wants to pick up your husband. Many single parents are always at family friendly functions because their kids are always with them. It wouldn't be appropriate to take their toddlers to the hookah bar, so it would be nice for the single men with kids to be more obvious at the park. Keep in mind, some single moms are single because of their exes and other women not respecting their marriages and have zero desire to do the same. Not to mention, someone else's husband is just not hot. We want our own toys to play with, thank you very much.

This irritates me because I usually find that its some of the married men that you have to watch out for. I am one of a very small pool of single moms in a community of married folks and I have had numerous married men come on to me (and very strongly) to which I refuse. There is nothing sexy about a man disrespecting the woman he made vows to. My POV is any man who disrespects his mother, his wife, or his kids is someone you should run away from. Yet, there are married women (fortunately, a small group) who give me the stank eye or joke about me "staying out of trouble" if I'm talking to a married guy. The women I see screwing married men are all married women, yet wives tend to be blind to that.[/quote]

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